Ok so the word beauty can mean different things to different people but I believe in some ways beauty goes much deeper than just the way that you look.
I can wholeheartedly say that I have been on a personal journey of self-discovery to really find what makes me beautiful, both inwardly and outwardly for a while now.
It can be hard to refer to yourself as beautiful and if you struggle to call yourself beautiful then there are few things that you need to reevaluate within yourself because that is not good.
This is quite a difficult article to read and write because it forces you to really evaluate who you are as a person and what it is that makes you special.
Today is all about how to find beauty in yourself. We’re going to look at 7 ways you can do just that.
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7 Tips to help you discover how to find beauty in yourself
1. Accept that beauty is more than skin deep
I’m a strong believer that beauty first comes from the inside before you see it on the outside.
There is a very big difference between someone being pretty and someone being beautiful. Beauty has a lot more substance. Pretty is merely superficial.
I’ve come across a lot of people in my life who I thought were pretty to begin with but after just a few minutes of talking to them, I can see that they lack beauty.
Being beautiful is much more lasting than being pretty.
People always remember a beautiful person and want to know more about that person because they have substance.
Once you realise that beauty goes deeper than the skin it starts to become easier to know that you are beautiful.
2. Understand that you are unique in your looks
Each person has unique looks. Even among identical twins, you can see subtle differences.
There is no one singular thing that defines what beauty is. You can be beautiful to one person and average to the next.
This is something that took me many years to understand myself. I gave way to much weight to the opinions of others that said I was average in my looks and chose to ignore those that thought I was truly beautiful.
I can honestly say that that did hinder me in a lot of things because it made me withdraw within myself and put others up on a pedestal thinking that they were better than me.
How you see yourself can affect how others see you too.
Your looks are individual to you and that is what makes you unique. Even your eyebrows that are not evenly placed make you unique and beautiful.
That fact that no one looks just like you makes you special.
3. Accept that not everyone will think you are attractive
This is a major thing! Not everyone will think you are beautiful and that is ok.
In fact, it would be kinda weird if everyone everywhere thought you were beautiful all the time.
The sooner you accept that not everyone will find you attractive the sooner you can move on with your life and not care.
I think that plantain is the best food ever but not everyone does. No matter how weird I think that is it doesn’t make plantain any less nice to me.
You might like marmite (which is disgusting by the way) but not everyone does. Does the fact that not everyone likes it dilate the taste for you? Absolutely not!
It’s the same thing with your looks. A few people may not find you visually beautiful but that doesn’t mean that you are not.
4. Know that the thing that makes you quirky makes you beautiful
For the longest time, I didn’t really understand who I was. I thought the key to being popular and liked was by trying to be just like everyone else.
I was so wrong. I don’t fit in because I am not generic there are aspects of my personality that make me quirky and that makes me unique.
I try not to take things too seriously and like to laugh at myself when I can.
I have my own individual sense of fashion. If I like it I wear it, if not I don’t.
Some people call me quirky and I love it because I embrace what makes me different. I don’t want to be like everyone else.
It’s in my quirkiness that I find my confidence because I don’t have to spend my time trying to make sure others like me.
Confident people are beautiful people.
5. Go out of your way to be nice to others even when they don’t deserve it
This is another biggy.
When someone goes out of their way to be nice to others it makes people pay attention. You become the bigger person and there is something extremely attractive about that.
Try to ignore a person that only has bad wishes for you. Every time you rise above it you become more beautiful and the person less attractive.
Being nice to someone does not make you weak it makes you strong.
6. Understand jealousy
No matter what you do there is always going to be someone out there that is jealous whether they want to admit it or not.
I was told countless times when I was younger that I was too skinny and that I needed to put on weight.
I spent a lot of time thinking that those people were right. They weren’t.
I am naturally very small and that is just my genetic makeup. No matter how much I eat I just don’t put on weight.
What I soon discovered was that those same people that used to tell me that I need to put on weight were always trying to diet and lose weight (strange that)
We are all made up very differently and others don’t have to necessarily like it. As long as you are not bothered by it it doesn’t matter.
When I look back at my old pictures now and see the kind of figure that I had before I had lots of babies I just think wow. I can’t believe what I had and didn’t see.
Your situation might not be with your weight it may be something else but it’s still the same thing.
Don’t let others jealousy of you make you go into a shell. Every butterfly is different and every butterfly is unique and beautiful in its own way.
7. Don’t sabotage your own beauty because of others
One thing that a lot of us do is to self-sabotage. We put too much emphasis on what others say and do that it affects our thinking.
We start to think that perhaps we are not beautiful and that there is nothing special about us.
That kind of thinking is self-sabotaging because the more you think that way the more you hold your personality back and the worse you will feel about yourself.
When you think badly of yourself it shows outwardly to everyone else.
If you want to wear red lipstick do it. Just because so and so says it doesn’t suit you don’t mean that its truth.
Some of the most beautiful people I have met have been people that are happy and confident in themselves.
Final thoughts on how to find beauty in yourself
Anyone can be beautiful. It’s as simple as that.
Beauty is made up of many different parts. Confidence, independence, self-acceptance and lots more.
You have the ability to be beautiful beyond pretty.